I also think at some point in the thread you changed the discussion to a scenario where there was no obligation to divorce, but it was a good idea nonetheless, from the earlier focus of the discussion. In any event the Halacha indicates that if he sincerely seeks shalom bayis, even if his pursuit of that might be unreasonable in light of his spouse’s stubbornness in demanding a divorce, then he is committing no aveira and, rather, the “V’ahavta l’raecha kamocha” obligation is upon her to return to his home and work on making the marriage work as best as possible. This point is best exemplified by Rav Elyashiv’s teshuva that I cited above (and would still suggest you read and provide feedback here on) of the case where they were separated for six years and Rav Elyashiv ruled he had no obligation to give a Get.
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