Enough Divorces – that sounds like very wise advice.
Lenny, honestly, what concerns me is the fact that from what you wrote, it sounds like you were refusing to listen to the Rav who you went to. He is a Rav and he is the Rav who you went to discuss this matter with, and yet, you refused to listen to him (according to what you wrote).
I agree with what Abba_S said about that. You should be listening to what the Rav tells you to do and not what anonymous posters tell you to do.
Can you get away with it technically? Yes, but so what? There are many things that people can get away with, but it doesn’t make them the right thing to do. That is why we have Rabbanim – to guide us and tell us the right thing to do.