Lenny, I apologize if I misunderstood you. I was just going by what you wrote in your post, and the way I understood it. I am not against your trying to save your marriage, and I agree with those who say that you should attempt to go for counseling (although I also agree with those who say you have to be careful who you choose).
My point had nothing to do with that. I’m not going to repeat it, because it doesn’t sound like it’s relevant anymore.
Rav Simcha Bunim Cohen sounds like a great idea from what I know of him.
Hatzlacha!