From what you are describing, Darchei Binah fits the bill in many ways. I’m not sure if the girls are out-of-towny or not. Michlalah doesn’t sound like it’s for you from what you are describing. I know very little about Binas, and only a teeny bit about Machon Raya. The teeny bit I know about Machon Raya is from years ago, so things can change. It was academic, which I would guess hasn’t changed.
What about Bnos Sara? it is extremely out-of-town. meaning out-of-town-BY. The school is really warm, and the girls are very sweet, aidel, great middos, tznius, not at all jappy, very Frum, out of town Yeshivish. It’s on Neve campus which is a great experience and a really nice campus. They get the best girls in terms of middos. The girls are definitly growth-oriented. The learning is both hashkafic and textual. There is work, but not too much pressure. There are several papers during the year, so the girls work hard on those, but other than that, there is not too much work. If warmth, good middos, and out-of-townish are important to you, it is one of the top schools in those areas.
You might want to look into Bnos Avigail. All I know about is from the website, and you can check that out yourself.
Binas and Machon Raaya may be for you – I just don’t know enough about them.