Reply To: Fear of Heaven

Is there pressure within a community to not dress tzniusly? I feel like in close-knit communities, dressing less modest than one’s peers would be an immediate call to question one’s derech.

Are there not women that dress the part just to keep under the radar? Or is that in your opinion, a rarity?

I wonder. I feel both ways. On one hand I have some more attractive tznius clothing and heels that I want to wear, and yet feel like wearing certain clothing that follows tznius guidelines may still be considered eye-catching in more conservative places like shul.

Meanwhile, I see some FFB women who dress way more attractive, while keeping elbows and knees covered. So yes I do want to wear more fun clothing that is still technically tznius.

So it’s back and forth.

Still… wait that’s another good point about the men. If men are pressured to learn, then why is their learning an indicator of their Yiras Shamayim vs. peer pressure?