Lightbrite: I love the way you always have positive things to say to fellow posters even when you don’t necessarily agree with them!
“Why is this person tznius? Why is this person not tznius? There are details that make it complicated sometimes.”
If you are talking about “grey” areas of tznius and things that you are not sure if they are tznius or not, that is an entirely different topic. I took your opening post at face value and assumed that we were talking about things that are clearly untznius and against halacha.
“Aren’t there women that are makpid on TM who on the outside are not so tznius?”
I’m sure there are, but:
1. Therefore, what? There may be people who are mechalel Shabbos but are very makpid on Kashrus. They are still being mechalel Shabbos. I’m not sure what your point is? TM and Tznius are two different Mitzvos; they are keeping one and not the other.
2. I don’t know which of the two is more important. They are both Mitzvos and both must be kept. It is possible that TM is more important; it’s also possible tznius is. I have no idea. BUT, one VERY important difference between tznius and most other Mitzvos is that when someone dresses untzniusly, she is causing others to sin and causing others to go to Gehenom. I find that many of the girls who dress untzniusly are very sweet girls who would not willingly hurt other people. They clearly don’t realize what they are doing, since they would not do it if they did. THAT is what is so upsetting to me when I see girls dressed untzniusly. If they had any clue what they were doing, they would not do it.