Thanks for explaining.
I can assure you of one thing, which is that this is not something they only tell baaley tshuva. I’ve had quite a chareidi upbringing and I’ve heard the notion you mentioned many times.
In my opinion, if they don’t tell this to boys in the yeshivot it’s because this is simply not something central to judaism. The question “who is better” is not relevant to observing torah. There are much more practical guidlines about the way men and women should interact. The subject is usually brought up to explain some things in the halacha that are sometimes perceived as being against women.
I want to add one other thing later I hope I have the time.