ED
Whoa hold up I believe you made up soem halachos there:
“the TORAH says wife is not allowed to even ask for a get. “
whereon Earth does the Torah put prohibitions on what the wife can ask for?
“And husband is not allowed to give a get if there are children involved.”
Where did you get that from?
LU
“we decide what the Torah says based on what the Rabbis tell us. If all the Rabbanim he went to were to tell him to give his wife a get,”
that isnt quite true. If ED has a source for his strange din, then Rabbis cant decide against the Shu”A. That being said I doubt there is a such a source. And if the Rabbonim involved view (and even the OP himself suspects) the marrige is un-salvageable, then I am not sure why this discussion has more than one view