Ubiquitin: “that isnt quite true. If ED has a source for his strange din, then Rabbis cant decide against the Shu”A”
I am assuming that the Rabbanim involved know more about these halachos than ED does (or any of the other posters here), and that is really the main message that I am trying to get across to Lenny. If the Rabbanim do in fact tell him that he has to give a Get, he shouldn’t say, “but someone in the CR told me that according to the Shulchan Aruch, you are not allowed to tell me that.” He should choose a reliable Rav, and then follow what he says – after all, he chose him because he is a reliable Rav.
“And if the Rabbonim involved view (and even the OP himself suspects) the marrige is un-salvageable, then I am not sure why this discussion has more than one view”
+1! That says it all! I think that is the main thing that I, and DY and I guess you also and whoever else there was(and even Joseph agreed in the end) were trying to get across.