lightbrite – while those things are very nice, they don’t really illustrate the qualities that I would want to know about. Doing good deeds and being a nice person are not the same thing.
I once asked a guy’s reference if he was sensitive. The reference responded, “sure, he does lots of chesed.” So I had to explain to him that doing chesed does not necessarily make someone a sensitive person. Being sensitive is about the way you relate to and talk to others. There can be people who go around doing lots of chesed, but are not nice people in terms of how they speak to others.