There is no way you could know from a three hour date as much as is determined via research prior to the date. The research is vital to insure the subtleties, hashkafic compatibility and not immediately obvious middos are a match between the potential couple. There are many things that don’t make themselves obvious or known on a date or even multiple dates that one must diligently research. Additionally, once the couple meets and there becomes an emotional connection, even if an incompatibility is found that should have clarified that they are for whatever reason not for each other, the emotional connection or infatuation can wrongly override the common sensical and proper approach of discontinuing the potential shidduch.
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