“I suspect I am a great deal older than you, so I guess we do run in different circles (wish I could still run)… But out here, most of the mothers of the type that has been negatively described, DO NOT EVEN LET THEIR SONS KNOW ABOUT THE GIRLS, if the moms do not first think the girl is attractive enough for their sons. It is only with their prior approval, that the boys are even shown the profiles of said girls. You would be shocked at how many moms WOULD ABSOLUTELY stop their sons from dating someone, by not letting the girl’s info even be made known to the son. I have friends who have done this, and I have told them my opinion on the subject.”
Ok. Maybe that’s the case. But if a guy trusts that his mother is looking for what he wants it’s not such a big deal. If not, he’s an idiot for not taking matters into his own hands. The whole going through the mother thing bothers me for a much different reason that most people. My theory is if a guy is old enough to get married he’s old enough to talk to a shadchan directly without having his mommy do it for him.