In those circles, the boys have the lists. In many other groups, MO, BTs, older singles, boys who have the sense to know they need a parnassah, there the men don’t have such lists, some can’t get a date at all.
On which planet?
The key word that girls use over and over is N O R M A L. Most single girls I know are looking for a normal boy. By and large, they want to get married and have kids, and are willing to look away stuff (way more than the guys).
I invite the guys you speak of to join SYAS or to network and find out who “SB” is, who I spoke of earlier, who emails Shadchanim tens of profiles daily.