Reply To: Shidduchim – asking the girl first

Joseph, I know, but at the time when people were first starting to come up with reasons for the shidduch crisis, this was one of the possibilities raised.

It is far from certain that the only cause is the one you mentioned.

There are many single boys.I know at least as many single boys as girls. For some reason people are only aware of the single girls and have exaggerated ideas of the differences in numbers.

There are shadchanim who feel that the issue has a lot to do with people’s mentality. If things were switched and people asked the girls first, it would probably help a lot.