“Abusive is the opposite of healthy by definition. “
Sometimes a “happy” relationship is associated as “healthy.”
IMHO, it helped to read Utah counter the argument that a “happy” marriage was also abusive. By explaining it as, “healthy,” it was easier to see how saying that an abusive marriage was happy. Abuse is not healthy. It doesn’t make someone feel happy either.
………That doesn’t mean that an abusive spouse did not have good qualities. Maybe there were some more pleasant moments, even happy ones, but that still doesn’t constitute as a “happy marriage.”
If someone thinks that abusive marriages were happy in the past, then maybe that person has no idea what it feels like and looks like to have a healthy, and truly happy relationship?
They do exist. Somewhere out there. Hashem helping.