Health: “I think that the other posters are referring to psychological abuse, not just physical abuse!
That’s where your confusion is.”
I grew up when most of the men had numbers on their arm, they were abused. Having someone speak to you disrespectful is not abuse. If you realize that you are a Holy Jewish Soul and Hashem will judge them in the next world, it shouldn’t bother you. In fact the Talmud says that there are three types of people who will not have to go to Guhenum (hell) one of which is one who had an evil wife. This would apply also to one who had an evil husband. So is divorce worth it, having the verbal tantrum which are usually for just a few minutes or going through hell for 24 hours a day for six days a week for 11 months. The choice is yours.