Of course, ITFT I have negius. My point is that without negius the elements and assumptions that have been thrown around here are rank speculation. You might be able to overcome the hedge gazing, but you still won’t have a true understanding of the circumstances unless you (or a parent or child or sibling – and maybe not even then) has lived them.
Sorry, I respectfully reject your “and still…”.
Abba S – As I wrote, divorce is not a first choice. As I also wrote, communications is the key to a good marriage. I am convinced, though, that there are few circumstances if any where considerations of a higher standard of living or other considerations are more important than not living in a poisonous, warring, and unhappy home environment.