Yichusdik, I appreciate what you are saying, it would be nice if that could be a general rule here.
Anyway, back to the OP. There was a very interesting article in Mishpacha this shabbos in which Miriam Kosman was addressing hashkafa of feminism. She feels that the change in gender roles that have become the norm even in the frum world has seriously impacted on shalom bayis. For example, the challenge for a wife who may be more educated that her husband, and may be providing more of an income in a better job, to be able to respect her husband. I don’t know if this is a contributing factor to escalating divorce rates, but it was definitely food for thought and may be relevant to the original topic.