LB- Maybe I am wrong, but I have the impression from your posts that tznius is the only (or main) issue you are struggling with. If that is the case, I certainly don’t think it’s accurate to refer to yourself as “secular”. And you can certainly call yourself religious.
Again, I might be wrong, and it’s not my business, and you certainly don’t have to share any personal information. But I am just pointing out that that is the impression that I get from your posts.
In any case, everything I wrote in my previous post still holds true: You are a Jew who trying to be an Eved Hashem and to grow in her Yiddishkeit (just like the all the rest of us :))