BG, I would say “yes” to the first question, and “probably not” to the second.
But I’m not married, so I wouldn’t really know.
I’m not sure if I know what a deep emotional connection is altogether. But maybe that’s just because it’s winter and because I haven’t left my house in a while, so I’m feeling lethargic.
I do think that’s probably what people mean when they say you can’t love someone before marriage. There has to be some kind of connection to start you off, but it’s not real until you get married and use it as a basis to start a real relationship.
But this is all guesswork based on books I’ve read and conversations I’ve had.