A marriage should never be based on love, especially conditional love, because love is a fickle thing and if one person isn’t feeling it one day, then the whole thing goes down the drain. Marriage must have a permanent foundation. Ideally, it should be based on Torah and the husband and wife should take advantage of their marriage and relationship to help bring each other to new levels of avodas Hashem. Practically, that’s mostly impossible to implement for ordinary people, let alone non-Jewish people, so a marriage should be based on a shared future together and for their children, which is something that doesn’t change and isn’t subject to the whims of emotion.
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