It’s important that you be attracted to your wife. Someone who insists his wife look like a model might only be attracted to that. If that’s the case, that’s fine – he shouldn’t marry someone he’s not attracted to. But remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. To me, my wife is a supermodel. Someone else might think she’s ugly, but that doesn’t matter to me.
0710, not to be insulting, but IIRC, the Mishna says that the girls who weren’t particularly attractive used to say what you said to try and attract a husband on Yom Kippur and Tu B’Av.