I don’t have complete powers, as much as you’d like to think of me. If ????? ???? ????, mine are certainly less. So, maybe I could bentch you with one who’s only really nice (not really, really nice), warm OR sweet, self or confident, good skills OR social.. oish – your list is WAAYYYY to big.
Maybe I should be mispalel that you find your RIGHT zivug, bekarov, whether you like it or not. And that your right zivug appeals to you. That’s easier.
And why, for Heaven’s sake, do you think you deserve any better than my Ishti. She was promised a “gem of a bachur”, she got a total nincompoop.