At the risk of sounding like a broken record (if you know what that is), I think before you go shadchanim hunting, you need to find a rav/rebbitzin/mentor. Someone familiar with the shidduch process and who knows you, who not only will help you figure out who you need, and coach you thru the dating process, but can also handle the shidduchim for you. While a 20 yr old can talk to shadchanim on her own, shidduchim is a difficult process. Are you going to be able to handle checking out prospective shidduchim, calling up roshei yeshiva and friends of the boy? Will you know what sort of question to even ask? A shidduch mentor is also an advocate, can field the suggestions from the shadchan, spare you a lot of the frustration that comes with dating- the things a parent would normally do. I think you really need to find someone who will fill that role for you, because it is very difficult for anyone to handle this on her own.
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