Lesson # 1 –
Disclose too much info on the CR (like the fact that you / your friend just got engaged to boys from OOT, and that you are both moving OOT) and you are bound to provide people with the facts they need to connect the dots.
Lesson # 2 –
Absorb lesson # 1. Getting married means you will be privy to details you do NOT want to share with others. And if you think the people you share secrets with keep it to themselves, trust me, they don’t. They may not say, “such and such told me xyz” but when the say, “a friend told me” and the next day you drop a connecting hint, the facts all come together.
New reality: keep things you want kept secret to yourself.