Thank you!!! I appreciate the advice.
I have to tell myself that it tznius is not nerdy or plain — I feel like I associate frumpy with frum but it’s not true. Then I feel resentful because I walk in all frumpy and even the most tznius rebbetzin looks so pretty and put together and I’m over here feeling forced to wear a potato sack and can’t wait to get home to change my outfit. Which makes tznius feel like oppression. It’s not like that though. So yay. I guess I am searching for balance.
Okay so I am going to try something different this time and be more myself but still modest. Thank you 💖💖💖