In a TorahAnytime shiur about dating myths, the shidduch expert said that the whole, “You’ll know when it’s the right person,” is a myth. He said that it does not work like that. People go on a date and they don’t know. They go on another date and they still don’t know. If you’re not opposed to the person for strong reasons, or if you both don’t have conflicting values and goals, then go on another date. But it’s not necessarily so clear right away.
I wonder if in retrospect, after a couple marries, the husband and/or wife feel like it was more obvious right away?
Or… maybe people do just “know” right away. Some do. Some may not. So to say that everyone will know once it is the one may discourage some people from continuing to date the right one again.
I don’t know. Thank you because it def helps to know that Hashem is in charge here 🙂