Tough issue to grapple with, but you actually did one of the most constructive things one can do in such situations: You reached out to others.
The best thing for a person is the support of friends and loved ones. That’s how we help those who are ill, in mourning, suffering catastrophic reversals of fortune, marital conflicts, etc.
When we can be more helpful financially, running errands, providing referrals, contacts, advice or professional services we do that and that’s wonderful. But, sometimes the best we can do is lend an ear and provide encouragement and emotional support.
Even though such intangibles don’t alter the underlying facts, they are invaluable in the Human experience.