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People love to say how Chumras are great and dont see the back side of them. Some people do erase the lines between Halacha and Chumra and mess everything up and it is a bigger problem than some are willing to admit.
see, here’s the problem. I agree with you, and always have, that making too many chumros and presenting them as halachos is a problem and can do damage to chinuch and to people who find out there was a misrepresentation of a chumro as Halacha. But then you always go that one step further and make comments alluding to chumros being a problem in general. People who make no chumros and live on the fence are prone to find too many kulas as well, which you should also be complaining about. I found that to be a problem as well. BOTH are a problem, though hard to get some to admit it.
Telling you Rav EVERYTHING that is pertinent is very important
telling the rov everything is indeed very important. Agreed. But sometimes it has been phrased here in a way to imply that you should tell him so that you can get a weaker ruling. It’s more an attitude deficiency than a presentation of facts. My rov, actually, will usually ask me my feelings since it is important for the ruling.