My idea would be to put the responsibility on the father rather then the mother.
In my experience, getting a mother to agree to a shidduch for her son is far more difficult then getting the father to agree.
You would think it would be the reverse. After all , I’m sure the moms didn’t appreciate the degree of difficulty in getting a date when they were young.
But the reality is different. It never ceases to boggle my mind how moms consistently put a girls “prettiness” at the top of the list, even when no one would apply that label to them.
I think men would be far more practical and “deal” oriented.
I also think that the if the olam insisted on joint/equal support, it would go a long way to putting women on a more equal footing in the process. My understanding is that this is the way it is in the chassidish velt.