Golfer, while you are right that each person should work on himself to be moichel others, IMHO, you can’t tell people that they shouldn’t be insulted by people who insult them. And the fact that it’s a “computer person” doesn’t matter. They are still real people. That concept has come up before (by others) and I think it’s ridiculous.
It may happen occasionally that someone is insulted by something ridiculous in which case, PERHAPS, one can tell them that (but be very careful before deciding that it’s ridiculous or that it’s your place to say so), but that has nothing to do with whether or not they are computer people.
In fact, I think that it can be easier to be insulted by people in the CR than in real life. For one thing, in real life, you can choose who you talk to, whereas in the CR, you can only choose whether or not to be in the CR.
Also, in real life, it is easier to let people know if you are insulted: They can see your facial expressions, and it is easier to have a conversation with them. In real life when people insult me, I let them know so that they can have the opportunity to ask me mechila and not get gehinnom. In the CR, it is not possible to do that, and it really concerns me.
I think that it is a big Mitzvah to let someone know (politely) if they insulted you, and really cruel not to.
Again, on the person’s part – of course he should work on not being insulted and/or being moichel, but I don’t think that’s something that you can tell others to do (and it isn’t always a healthy approach -many people need to work on validating their feelings)