Ubiquitin:
LU
“don’t know if I would have started the list in the first place, but once it was started, I thought that adding to it could only help. …”
“The opposite is true. Praising a poster or two isnt insulting. ”
There were several people praised – 8 to be precise (7 posters and 1 moderator). Someone else seemed to be insulted at being left out, so I thought I could “undo” any hurt feelings by mentioning him. At that point, I thought that it would be appropriate to mention others as well.
“Once you start listing posters it is inevitable that someone will be omitted.”
See above. Additionally, I posted that I was not finished. My intention was that between myself and others (whom I was hoping would join in), that all posters would eventually be included. Once the list had been started and so many people mentioned, I thought that it could only help to find nice things to say about everyone.
I do think that it would be nice if during Elul, we could find nice things to say about each other.
” Also, I’m not sure the two are the same thing. If you say that you want to meet x and don’t mention y, it may be insulting to y. But I am not sure that choosing to describe a few posters is the same thing. ”
“The exact opposite is true. If you want to meet X in most cases Y wont get insulted. But if You ask to meet A, B, C, D, E …and X it is more than likely that Y will get insulted.”
You missed my point. Those weren’t the two things I was comparing. I was comparing asking to meet posters vs. writing nice things about them (the other thread vs. this thread). The comparison was about the topic (meeting vs. praising) not about the numbers. ( I see though why you misinterpreted my words).
“. And if anyone feels that he was forgotten about, he can say something, and someone can mention him, ”
“Ah but that is needy and petty”
I don’t see it that way at all. I was going to say that perhaps it’s a male/female thing, but LF apparently didn’t see it that way. I also didn’t, as seen in the other thread. As soon as I mentioned that I felt left out, others made sure to include me (LF actually) and then I was happy.
But thank you for letting me know that you do feel that way. I wouldn’t have thought that anyone felt that way, so I’m glad to know. I would be interested in knowing what others think regarding that point.
Bu in any case, we still get back to my first two points (that several posters were already mentioned,and that the intention was to include everyone).
And by the way, I had you in mind when I wrote that I wasn’t finished my list yet. And I’m not just saying that – I am impeccably honest.