If the Rebbe/Morah teaches something wrong, it should be corrected. But how it is done is the key- no making fun of the Rebbe/Morah, putting him/her down for not knowing. It could be explained as “everyone makes mistakes, forgets something, even a Rebbe, or maybe he was referring to a meforesh or source that I am not familiar with; there is no one, no matter how big a talmid chochom, who does not have more to learn, etc, but he still has a lot he can teach you and still deserves your respect.”
In terms of school rules not conforming with family standards, a parent can explain, we do X, and we follow a valid halacha/hashkafa, but the school says to do Y, and it is important while you are in school to be a part of the school and follow their rules. If their is a situation where a school is following a questionable approach to halacha (say a local day school has girls perform/sing at graduation in front of the fathers), then it can be explained that the school has its reasons, maybe not all families are at a level to follow the halachca properly, but we are, so we should not do X. In other words, there does not have to be 100% agreement, but their should always be respect.
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