Let’s say for argument’s sake it’s purely an advice issue. Who says the first’s rav’s advice needs second guessing?
You seem to assume that anyone going through a tough time needs to be meikil. That may very well be true in some cases, but may very well be damaging in others. Perhaps long term, some individuals may be better off holding fast to their standards, rather than slacking off and feeling as if they was too weak and caved in.
It’s not something you and I should be opining, or opining that he should be second guessing the rav to whom he first asked the shailah.