(Ecclesiastes) ראה חיים עם האשה אשר אהבת
Hashem made us want a woman so that we would willingly afterwards put in the necessary work to make a life with her.
If she not especially a mirshaas, which although exists, is an unusual exception to the rule, then she has maalos and chesronos. That’s fine. Make a life with her and make sure to grow in marriage. Through having a partner, you will more easily be able to recognize what you need to better yourself in. So will she. If you will grow then she will also. If you will be obstinate and unwilling to change, she will be a klavta. But she’s not really a klavta, but that is her ‘kenegdo’ role.