Wow there’s like 7 people waiting moderation!
I’m in shidduchim, and honestly although you say “It’s never going to be be me”, I don’t think it will be me. My Rabbi paskens that you must share information during the dating, whether it’s a 4th date or a 7th date. I’m only looking to marry someone who follows a Rabbi, who asks about everything and they definitely speak to about such matters. Given my hashkafa and the home I wish to build, and the community I want to live in, I am trying to find someone with those same values, again- one of the big ones is daas torah, serious daas torah, and not going rav shopping, etc.
So most rabbanim I’ve heard in my circles say you must say things in the dating stage. I just don’t think I’m going to marry someone with a rabbi who would pasken otherwise. I may be wrong, but….yeah