Moshe, your parents don’t like frum people and you are looking to them for help? Or even listening to them? While kibud av is important, you have an obligation to marry and live a frum life. If they are putting roadblocks in your way, find a different route.
IMO you aren’t ready to get married. I suggest you find a frum dating coach/therapist who can help you be stronger and less self-pitying. You will also learn how to handle your family and all the naysayers who surround you. Could it be they are the perfect excuse because deep down, something is holding you back?
Stop trying to find a date. Stop blaming everyone, including “the system.” Get some professional advice and support and when you feel empowered and more secure, you’ll begin again. lots of luck, let us know when you are a chossen.