Rejecting a kid from living in your home is the equivalent of disowning them. It is not terribly meaningful what the intent of the parent is. That language to the child is clear and unmistakable – rejection. And these extreme rejections are so painful that reconciliation is close to impossible. If we are recognizing the sanctity of the parental relationship as a critical element when the child decides to return, then we must admit that this rejection all but makes that impossible.
I have never challenged Torah. But the metziyus must be ascertained so that we know which halachos to apply. The nearly unanimous opinion of Gedolei Yisroel has been made clear. And the authors from KJ have an agenda to challenge that. I will not spend a moment to study them, why they take this approach, etc. We are not dealing with a huge controversy among the Gedolim. They have been clear.
The Chazon Ish ZT”L made a clear statement in his generation, some 60 years ago. He stated that the gemora that describes שמאל דוחה וימין מקרבת is no longer applicable. Today, he said, we must me mekarev with the left as well. The Chazon Ish cannot be accused of modifying halacha to suit his opinions or agendas. He was clearly explaining that the outcome mattered to the application of the halacha. His insight is not only amazing, but it is prophetic. Today’s generation so clearly finds the דוחה approach provocative and rejecting, clearly not the agenda of the Torah. Not because these youngsters are “right”, but because they are seriously impaired.
As far as being “deputized” to fulfill Hashem’s vengeance, I have great trouble accepting this message. There are way too many statements throughout תורה שבכתב and תורה שבעל פה that say otherwise.