Hey,
I just want to applaud you for trying to figure this question out.
Im male, but when I was in shiduchim I mainly just told the shadchanim i was looking for yiras shamayim, sameach bechelko, good midos, simchas hacham, etc. etc. These are all phrases which, while they might be good traits, do not describe a personality. Someone could have all those heilege traits but just not match with you. I’m only speaking based on my personal experience, not telling you what to do. I wished I had actually sat down and thought about what type of person (personality, hashkafa, interests, values) I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Even if it had taken me longer to get married, it would’ve been worth it. I also told the shadchanim that I just want someone who cares about shmiras hamitsvos, dveikus b’hashem etc. Those terms are very vague because ideally all frum jews aspire to those traits. I wished I had spoken to a rebbe and/or trusted (married) friend of mine first about what I really wanted in a relationship (the truth is I may not have even been ready for a relationship maturity wise. I was 22, which is normal for some but to each his own). Anyway, my relationship is pretty rocky now and I think it has to do alot with how I approached shiduchim.
Wishing you hatslacha with everything, clarity, and happiness on your journey. It’s worth the wait for the right person.