I;m in shidduchim, haven’t been here for too long but I’ve learned a thing or two.
When people want to know what “type” they don’t mean for you to tell them just their personality, or values. It’s slang for “Describe the type of person you want to marry”.
I am quite open minded like you. And after datings for a bit, I found that the only important thing to look for is middos and hashkafa. Generally personality, chemistry, attraction, and values cannot exactly be found out until you go out on a date.
Middos aren’t just character traits, but it’s also expression of those traits. Responsibility mixed with my hashkafa is can be expressed as having a mentor or a rabbi. Do you get that?
Hashkafa is tricky, I’ve dated so many people who have my hashkafa, Meaning like, yeshivish home, and no secular media or smartphones, BY schools, etc but don’t have the honestly, depth and growth I am looking for. I was turned down over a really great guy once I said so yeah I am still reading some secular mystery novels and such but I’m working towards stopping. Within the next 1.5 years I plan on hitting my goal of not reading secular books at all (Except self help books, cook books, technical stuff like that, not that I buy those books, but if I were to need a specific non-jewish one I would no hesitate).
Although he had SAID he wants to be there one day, he was taken aback that when I mean I’m getting there, I’m GETTING there. I have a plan, map and I’m on my journey, and I WILL get there, I have a date too! (Pun intended).
Last thing I’d say is there’s lots of things you can settle for, like height, age, career, etc, but hashkafa and middos are 2 NEVERS. Hashem sends you your zivug and you should NEVER have to lower your standards to find your zivug.