Reply To: OTD Child

We allowed him to go to work on Shabbos. At the time I was afraid of him using hard drugs. He has used some Marijuana but not on a regular basis, it’s situational if a friend has some. He uses more tobbacco now and wants to stop that. I am sorry i did not know at the time of a frum company that has similar sales work to what he is now doing but it’s too late, he is rising a little in that company.
I believe he left bec all his life he was not doing well in learning, he would sit in Shiurim but was not getting it or enjoying it. He has a hard job but he is doing ok but its really too many hours so he has no time for anything. Now he has moved to another state about 4 hours away.
Thanks for the comments so far. Some people in the family thought he should be dating, i thought of finding him a shidduch, a female version of this. But others think it’s not a good idea.
THe problem is me, i feel i failed him completely. WHy do I feel this way when the 3 other children are all very frum and give us so much Nachas? It just does. It seems i cannot do anything but sit and wait.