@philosopher busy here for yt too, but am familiar with the quotes Joseph brought. I’ve learned beraishis I’ve learned the whole hilchos ishus and nashim in Rambam. And the last gemara as well all makes sense within context. Just a quick note for now happy to go in depth in specifics after yt:
The mastery or enslavement of women Joseph speaks of is as you said missing context. A wife is not subservient to men. But you her husband she does have obligations some of which are / were servile and are based on what is considered a woman’s job at the time (no one washes their husbands feet and face today because while back then that was normal for wives and am expression of endearment today it would just be weird and demeaning as it isn’t the norm today.)
Her obligations are described as mishubedes enslaved. He also has his obligations to her in fact his are recorded explicitly in the Torah and there are others brought in chazal.
If either fail in their obligations they can get a divorce – he doesn’t whip her or rape her if she refuses to do her responsibilities but he can claim the right to divorce. She
can also file for divorce in beis din if he fails his obligations to her.
They both need to respect each other. Men have a need to be respected as an officer as the Rambam says she should view him. Ie that she respects him as in looks up to him. Women want to admire their husbands and don’t need to be looked up to in return but need their husbands to treat them with proper dignity as human beings and equals, as the Rambam says he should respect her MORE than himself.
Anyway gotta get back to menu planning..
Gut yom Tov to all!!