Non political:
In a nutshell a woman may wear tsitsis unless she seems to demonstrate that she doesn’t agree that the obligation is on men only. WOW is the perfect example of what is not permitted. Women in conservative shuls who were the same taleisim as men, also not permitted (although I have observed that most of those taleisim have tsitsis that are not kosher anyhow;I checked myself in a few places just for curiosity lol).
Secretly wearing is ok, or on a feminine garment.
I imagine you disagree, but if the community generally doesn’t do something, but it is permitted al pi halacha, that won’t stop me from doing it privately. Publically is different, because I dont want to lead people ato be choshed b’ksheirim.
I am pretty much done with this topic, so if you rebut anything here, I will let you have the last word.
Shavua tov and Gutte voch.