SarahLevin613 I said before in my first post that it’s just basically balancing sheltering and also teaching your kid how to deal with it. And although people may disagree, you CAN shelter your child from internet, and TV and they’ll still learn how to deal with the outside world.
There’s still not religious cousins, less religous cousins, neighbors and friends who are unsheltered or have different hashkafos. The yetzer hara to be involved with gashmiyus and pritzus can express itself with radio use, getting a hold of non-jewish music, going out to ben yehudah with friends to just “watch” what’s going on. (No one will know, right? And we won’t do anything). Buying a smartphone when they are old enough to do so of their own accord and finding themselves addicted, bombarded with messages from other frum people of the opposite gender, realizing that there’s enough struggle without the smartphone and choosing to get rid of it, delete instagram, etc of their own accord.
As a child there’s so much to be exposed from, in the street, on vacations, from cousins, neighbors, friends, schoolmates (Why can’t we do that?) (Doing things by their houses).
My siblings went to the Beis Yaakov system and so did I, the things we heard in school, or the things classmates did, you wouldn’t believe. Hearing stories from my younger siblings, who go to one of the most prestigious and sheltered BY’s in the city, it DOESN’T matter. There’s still kids there coming to school and telling my sister about an extremely graphic movie she watched with her mother (Don’t ask, why isn’t this child kicked out already? They have money, and doing so makes the school stop being in denial. How can children in their school be watching such things when clearly they are so frum all the girls must wear skirts 5 inches below the knee, the won’t even MENTION the word internet because it’s so obvious that none of the children would ever know about that)