I’ve never heard a Rabbi tell someone to abuse their children, marry people who are not old enough to really consent to marriage, not talk to their spouse for 30 days, and if they made a mistake, to start the 30 days all over again…
Hmmm, shall I point out more differences?
Any Rabbi who tells them to put their life or others in endanger or do something terribly assur is not a Rabbi.
I don’t know who you follow but I don’t follow “blindly”. My Rabbi explains a lot of his decisions to me and a lot of the psakim he comes about to is only after we have had a discussion and he has heard my thought and feelings and the situation. If afterwards I still feel something was misunderstood or not right, I always feel comfortable to call him back to re-discuss something or clarify.