SHY: it’s definitely not a pervasive issue among the kinds of people I associate with”
Do you live in Crown Heights? At any rate, good for you hanging around with the right crowd. But, as others have confirmed, it is a HUGE problem in lubavich.
Would you agree that the average chassidshe bochur in lubavich feels that once he is married it is ok to talk to women and girls? I have seen “chassidishe”chassanim at lubavich chasunos being introduced by their kallos to all her friends, and the chassanim find this normal (enjoyable?). This doesn’t happen in any other chareidi group.