Reply To: A Solution: Finding Shidduchim (aka “Shidduch Crisis”)

Ah Reb Yid, you raise a good point, “Preventing people from getting married properly once they have already found someone to marry will tempt them to seek an alternative.” But are you aware that RIGHT NOW there are rabbonim that ALREADY prevent people from getting married? I will give a few examples of such demands placed by various rabbonom:: refusing to be mesader kiddushin until the chosson kalah learned hilchos tahara! Refusing to be messader kiddushin till there is a civil marriage license! etc. There ARE certain hoops that are placed before a chosson and kallah can attend their chuppah! (I won’t even mention non-rabbinical preventions like getting the sheitel, gown, availability of hall – not always available…) Do these preventions to get married cause the chosson and kallah to “seek alternatives”?? I don’t think so, but maybe I am wrong.