@AviK
I agree that children should learn to be considerate of others, but that doesn’t mean they have to share bedrooms. Our teenagers would have never played music aloud or held telephone conversations in the bedroom areas after the younger children had been put to bed.
Much of what you describe is applicable and necessary to apartment living or when houses are built so close as in sections of Brooklyn that you can almost reach across the property lines from one kitchen into the house next door. Consideration is different when you live in single family homes on acre plus lots in small towns.
You and your brother were/are only three years apart and living together would be far easier than for our girls 9 years apart. I’m 8 years younger than my next older brother, Mrs. CTL is 15 years older than her younger sister (with no boys in between). Sharing rooms in this situation with no economic need makes little sense.
BTW, when I was a child and went to visit my grandparents in Brooklyn or the Bronx, we were instructed to remove our shoes at the apartment door and don soft soled bedroom slippers so we’d not disturb the tenants in the apartments below. We only played quite board games in the apartments and went to the park if we wanted to be loud.
Here in the country, we have no neighbors in the building. The house on one side of us in 250 feet away, the house on the other side we built for my late MIL and my youngest daughter and her husband live there now with our youngest grandchild. Our kids didn’t have to go to the park to run, jump and make noise. We have several acres of fenced yard with sports and swimming pool. That said we know sound carries and they always had to be inside by 8 PM, unless it was an organized Motzei Shabbos party on the grounds.
It is just a different lifestyle when you don’t live in a congested area.
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