Reply To: restaurant on first date???

Devny: If you are not a boy and not a girl, you likely qualify for the new “X” designation allowed by New York, California and Massachusetts for those who don’t have a binary gender preference for driver’s licenses etc. Clearly you are on the cutting edge of posters here in the CR with respect to your dilemma in applying traditional norms for dating, shadchonus,, tzinius, and most importantly, who decides where to go on the first date. Historically, these kinds of issues were raised for a chassidish boy considering dating a girl from a Litvish family but you are raising challenging new questions.