Reply To: Yeah, I know you meant well but…

Wow. I’m happy to see that there is another opinion on this!

I’m just thinking that those that appreciate it may be of the female gender so it may just be a difference in nature. That’s just a thought but I could be wrong.

Additionally, it seems that some people here think that if a single doesn’t receive the “iy’h by you”, it means that he or she is not being thought about.

I beg to differ on that one. You don’t need to remind me openly that i’m single to show that your thinking of me. If you just give the single a call or even a text to say hello and see how he or she is doing also shows that you care about him. If when you see the single by a wedding or event you strike conversation and genuinely show that you care about the person WITHOUT openly reminding the person that he’s single, also shows the person you care. In many cases the person will appreciate a warm hug.
If you think of a shidduch for the person and mention it also shows you care.

monsey shechita-just because the person doesn’t wish back iy’h by you bekorov, doesn’t mean he doesn’t care. If he says “Thanks so much for coming I really appreciate it, it means so much to me, and a big hug, I wouldn’t think most people would feel bad. But again, I could be wrong here.

Joseph- I’m just recalling the good old CR days, I think we used to fight alot back then(:

But I don’t think that the kvata thing is so openly reminding someone that their single. Rather most people would feel good that their cared about.

Have I addressed everyone?(: